Leave And Cleave

Matthew 2:24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

Isn’t it interesting that God did not say that women are to leave their father and mother and cleave to their husbands, and yet men are to.

For years there have been two secular schools of thought about men and women. Some have said that their character and traits have everything to do with how they are raised and their environment. The philosophy of the parents and society determine that guys are rough and ladies are gentle.

Existing on the same plane is the school of thought that men are from Mars and women are from Venus. That the average woman, no matter what society says, will have female characteristics and men will have male characteristics. This idea has come closer to reality.

There was a reason that Paul said the men are to love their wives and wives are to submit or respect their husbands. Men desire to be respected and women desire to be loved.

The same is true leaving and cleaving. It has been discovered that the reason that women don’t leave their families is because the man has not left his and established a home for her. They may have left the family but not emotionally.

If he will man up and build a safe place of nurture, care, love and understanding then the woman does not have to be directed to leave the family. Yes, I added understanding and blogged about this before.

1 Peter 3:7 Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.

Therefore, if you do not attempt to understand your wife then your prayers might be hindered.

Be a man and leave and cleave to your wife. Provide her the home where she will be more than happy to move in with you emotionally.

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Born To Be Wild?

Genesis 1:25-28 And God made the beast of the earth according to its kind, cattle according to its kind, and everything that creeps on the earth according to its kind. And God saw that it was good. Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”

On the sixth day God created and called it good. It was not until after this that He created man. Of all the creations during the six days, only two were not declared good: when God divided the heavens from the earth on the second day and when God created man on the sixth day. Why?

As for the second day, it was all about division – separation. Heaven and earth were no long link together. Nothing can be good outside of the presence of God.

And as for man, man was not created to be good but to choose good. Therefore, man received God’s blessing instead. Man needed God’s spoken power in order to choose good and it came in the form of His blessing. Another argument of man’s free will.

Some have even gone as far as to say that there is a correlation between the second day and the creation of man. Both were divisions from God’s presence. Only the breath of God can reunite the dust of the ground (what man was created from) to the heart of God, “and man became a living soul.”

Today it takes the breath of God breathed, the Holy Spirit, for us to be reunited with Him (Romans 8:15-16). We may not have been born good but we can choose good because God spoke His blessing upon us. We were not born to be wild, we were born TO BE good.

Romans 8:15-16 For you did not receive the spirit of bondage again to fear, but you received the Spirit of adoption by whom we cry out, “Abba, Father.” The Spirit Himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God,

Peter said in Acts 3:19 Repent therefore and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, so that times of refreshing may come from the presence of the Lord,

Repenting is the one act that will reunite us to God’s presence. Then, and only then will the times of refreshing come from God.


Why Curse Canaan?

Genesis 9:25 Then he said: “Cursed be Canaan; A servant of servants He shall be to his brethren.”

Why did Noah curse Canaan if it was Ham who was guilty? Well, maybe Ham was not guilty.

Think about the clues that these verses offer as well as verses in the next chapter.

  1. Ham saw Noah naked. There is no evidence that Ham DID anything to Noah besides accidentally seeing his father’s nakedness.
  2. Verse 22 points out that Ham, who saw his father’s nakedness, was the father of Canaan. Keep in mind that up to this point in Genesis everything is about the “firstborn.” if you will read verse 10 in the next chapter you will discover that Canaan was Ham’s youngest son. So, why throw in this fact unless it meant something.
  3. Verse 24 says that Noah knew what his younger son had done. Someone did something to him and it had to have been worse than seeing the naked body of an old man.

So, someone did something to Noah while he was naked and verse 24 gives no names, Canaan is mentioned twice while not not even close to being the oldest son, and Canaan gets cursed.

You do the math and take it from there.

Praying Father

Job 1:5 So it was, when the days of feasting had run their course, that Job would send and sanctify them, and he would rise early in the morning and offer burnt offerings according to the number of them all. For Job said, “It may be that my sons have sinned and cursed God in their hearts.” Thus Job did regularly.

There are many biological fathers. To become one takes no character or heart. But, great is the man who has the heart of a father for his children.

When we think of Job we think of all of the possessions he lost and then his children were killed. But when you read verse 5 you realize that losing his children would have knocked the breath out of him. This was a father who not only provided for his children but took much effort to regularly offer up a sacrifice for each one of them just in case they had thought something wrong.

As a child I always heard about praying mothers and on Mothers Day we would sing the song “If I Could Hear My Mother Pray Again.” thank God for praying mothers. But where are the praying fathers like Job. Fathers who will intercede for their children on a regular basis. Not that the prayer of a mother does not work, but the prayer of a father is a missing element.

It is said that Hallmark donated Mothers Day cards to a prison one year and they ran out of cards. So, for Fathers Day they made sure that they had enough, but only three were taken. It was evident that these men didn’t have praying fathers, or at least fathers who cared about even what their children were thinking.

Back to Job. Now, you can fully understand the pain in his loss. Not only did he lose possessions but he lost the children of his heart.

What was the result of Job’s faithful intercessions? Verse 10 says that a hedge was built around his household.

What Do You Fear

Job 3:25 For the thing I greatly feared has come upon me, And what I dreaded has happened to me.

Job was a man of great possessions, loved his children, and was godly. He did have a weakness though, fear. What did he fear? He said that what he feared would happen did happen.

So, how did Satan know where to hit Job? He hit him in his fear.

I have to wonder if Satan could have taken any of his possessions and children away had he not feared losing them?

Someone very close to me had a fear all of her life. She feared that she would never see her 48th birthday. In her earlier 40’s God had worked a miracle in her body. Her doctor at John’s Hopkins even wrote “Miracle Girl” on her chart.

Several years later an unrelated issue occured. She had developed cancer. She fought it for 3 years and died weeks from her 48th birthday.

Is it possible that her fear kept her from seeing her 48th birthday? Just asking.